A Mother’s Success with Her Daughter’s Tantrums

I’ve been telling you that tantrums and emotional upsets with your child of any age can be resolved, and they are not a normal or necessary part of childhood.

I want to share a quick story about a mom whom I’ll call Mary, mother of two girls one a young teen and the other 6, to share with you what’s possible.

Mary and her husband struggled with their younger daughter’s frequent ‘screaming fits,’ which they reported, “could last for hours.” In addition, these emotional upsets occurred several times every day, whenever they had to tell their daughter, “No.”

As you can imagine, this affected the entire family on a daily, constant basis. Everyone, including the older daughter, tiptoed around this young girl, afraid of setting her off. They saw her as fragile and tried to keep her happy.

Mary was exhausted and distracted by the attention and time she gave to her youngest daughter, feeling she was neglecting her older daughter, and having frequent fights with her husband about their daughter’s tantrums.

Then there were the times she was at the end of her rope, when she became an angry, yelling, upset, out-of-control mom, which she always regretted afterward.

Her young daughter was creating chaos for everyone, and she knew she had to do something.

She came to me for coaching, clear that, “My girls need a better mom.”

After getting some coaching, Mary learned how to calmly and consistently respond to her daughter’s tantrums, to not be afraid or overwhelmed by them. Things began to change immediately.

Within a few weeks, the tantrums were down to 2 or 3 a week, a huge change from at least 2 – 3 every day.

Two days ago I talked with Mary, and she was thrilled with a HUGE SUCCESS she and her youngest daughter had recently created together.

In a situation, which had always triggered an out-of-control upset,her daughter consciously chose to stay calm, not reactive, and made it through an entire afternoon and evening in a previously difficult situation.

The next morning, Mary’s daughter proudly told her, “Mommy, I did it! I didn’t get upset or yell!”

Mary’s voice  smiled with delight! She hadn’t done a thing to help her daughter with this. Her empowered daughter had done it by herself!

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If this sounds too good to be true, it isn’t! Whether you have a small challenge with your child’s emotional upsets or a larger one like Mary, you can turn it around.

If you’d like to more calm, effective and loving with your child’s emotional upsets, I invite you to learn how to do this yourself by signing-up for my my teleclass:

“Parents Keep Your Cool: How to Effectively and Lovingly Respond to Your Child’s Emotional Upsets and Tantrums”