What Did You Discover?

Over the weekend, I sent you an exercise to help you discover how much your child ‘wants’ to listen to you, the operative word here being ‘want.’ Have you had a chance to do it?

If you haven’t done it, I really encourage you to focus on the exercise questions I suggested for at least one evening with your child to see what you discover.

Stepping back to observe your interaction with your child will give you valuable new awareness and insights about yourself and your child. In my coaching and parenting classes, I frequently suggest parents observe a particular area of their family relationships to see what they discover. They often return with unexpected new insights.

Many parenting techniques rely on fear, rewards, and control to manage a child’s behavior and to get him to listen. Yet these approaches actually limit your child’s capability and full self-expression.

Plus, using bribes and reward dramatically harm your relationship with your child both now and in the long run. In the younger years, these strategies may appear to work and yield the results you want; however, as your child becomes a teenager, these old techniques put huge distances between you and your child.

Teens refuse to be controlled by their parents using these techniques.

Your child of any age wants a mutually honest, loving, trusting relationship with you. Without this kind of relationship with you, their desire and ability to listen diminishes.

A good way to begin to improve how much your child listens to you is with this easy, little-effort exercise. I encourage you to do it tonight!

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Here are the steps of the exercise:

1. Go about your day or evening observing the reality of your child’s desire to listen to you. Ask yourself these questions:

~ How much does my child want to listen to me?

~ What does she do that makes me feel this way?

~ What are the things I do that seem to cause her to pull back and not listen?

~ What are the things I do that seem to invite her to be closer and more connected to me and to want to listen and cooperate more?

2. Have fun observing yourself and your child.

3. Take a few moments and write your answers to the above questions.

4. Last question – What is my most important discovery or insight from observing how much my child wants to listen to me?

5. Share with me and other like-minded parents what you discover.
Share your discoveries and insights below.

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New Teleclass Next Monday! “Why Johnny Doesn’t Listen and What You Can Do About It”

An essential component of Joyous Parenting is having your child listen to you. Trying to raise and live with a child who doesn’t listen is exhausting and stressful. As a parent, you work much harder than you need to.

If you wish getting your child to listen were easier, I’d love to have you join us next Monday for this valuable class filled with practical tools you can use immediately.

If you’re busy next Monday, don’t use that as an excuse not to get this useful information that will make a profound positive difference in how your child listens to you and how much you enjoy one another.

Click here to sign-up and for more info.

Many people believe that parenting is one of the hardest jobs on the planet. It doesn’t have to be. With a few simple tools and insights and your willingness to grow as a person and a parent, parenting can be the truly joyous experience you envisioned when your child was born.

Here’s to making parenting easier and a lot more fun!

To your Joyous Family!
Connie

Don’t Miss This Call Tonight! Nurture your Child’s Self-Confidence

This is your last chance to join us for my class tonight “5 Essential Secrets to Raising a Self-Confident Child.” I have so much crucial information to share with you.

In fact, as I’ve been finalizing the content for the class, I’ve discovered I have SIX essential secrets to share with you. I promised I would give you the best I have about nurturing your child’s self-confidence, and that is exactly what I am going to do.

Often parents don’t recognize when their child is struggling with confidence, a lack of grounded trust in herself. Yet if your child has recurrent emotional meltdowns or angry outbursts, if your child hesitates, is often uncertain, or lacks motivation, your child is in some way struggling with self-confidence.

I invite you to take a moment and consider how important your child and his confidence is to you.

Then consider what you are willing to invest of your time and finances to nurture that. It’s probably a lot.

Now let this powerful feeling of commitment to your child and her self-confidence move you to take action right now.

Sure, spending more money and being on the phone tonight may not sound like the highlight of your day right now. But what if you leave the class more energized, more inspired, more focused and clear about what you need to do to nurture this all-important quality in your child?

What if you can make a profound, positive change in your child’s life by making a few simple changes in your own behavior and in your awareness of what your child needs from you?

The time is now. There is no more ‘tomorrow’ to sign-up. I’d love to share this information with you.

Click here to sign-up now.

If you already have something you’re doing tonight during this time and cannot be on the call live, sign-up now and I will send you the audio recording and the transcript within just a couple of days.

Plus, if you have a question you’d like to ask me about your unique situation, go ahead and register and then email your question to me by 3 pm Pacific today, and I will answer your question during the 30-minute Q & A at the end of the class.

Don’t miss this impactful, life-changing information! I am blown-away by all the content I will be sharing with you tonight!

Click here to sign-up now.

Oh, and when you come to the call tonight, be sure to have paper and pencil and your favorite drink so you can get the most from this class for yourself and your child.

I look forward to talking with you soon.

To your Joyous Family!
Connie

P.S. Please tell your friends and family who might also want this information about nurturing their child’s self-confidence. Make a difference in their lives too! Thanks.

How Praise Damages Your Child’s Self-Confidence

Many people will tell you to praise your child, that it helps her self-esteem and develops self-confidence. Yet if you are a parent who praises your child, you’ve probably noticed that it may make her feel good in the moment but does little to build self-confidence in the long run.

You continue to see signs of your child struggling with self-confidence. Or perhaps you want to do all you can to develop his feeling of being able to trust himself so you praise him often.

You may believe praise and encouragement help your child’s self-confidence; yet, in fact, you may be unintentionally and unknowingly diminishing and limiting her confidence.

In my new video below “How Praise Damages Your Child’s Self-Confidence,” I share with you two powerful ways in which praising and encouraging your child actually limits this crucial quality.

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If you’ve missed any of my previous videos about nurturing your child’s confidence, click the links below.

“5 Qualities Your Child Needs to Be Self-Confident”

“Why Your Child’s Self-Confidence Matters”

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If your child’s self-confidence is a priority for you, don’t miss my new teleclass “5 Essential Secrets to Raising a Self-Confident Child.”

In this class, you will learn:

~ 5 reasons why self-confidence is important

~ 3 ways introverted children express their self-confidence that is different than extroverted children

~ Why encouragement actually diminishes your child’s confidence and what to do instead

~ 5 effective, simple do-now actions that will nurture genuine self-confidence in your child

The teleclass (class by phone) is next week on Tuesday, March 12 at 6:30 Pacific.

Don’t let this one get by you!

Click here to sign-up and learn more now!

I hope you enjoy the videos!

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5 Qualities Your Child Needs to Be Self-Confident

Every parent wants their child to be self-confident, but what does this mean? How can you tell if your child is self-confident? What qualities does he need to have?

It may not be what you think! Academic achievement or social acceptance does not necessarily mean your child is self-confident.

Your child is skilled at learning to be the person she believes you and the other important people in her life want her to be. Then she acts as she believes she ‘should’ rather than the truth of who she is.

Here’s your opportunity to learn those essential qualities your child needs in order to be self-confident. Look below the surface to see what you discover. [Read more…]

You are More Important to Your Child than You Realize!

Have you ever stopped to consider how important you are to your child?

Much of your child’s emotional well-being is literally in your hands, and emotional well-being is so essential for…

~ your child’s happiness and success both now and in the future.

~ the feelings you and your child have for one another both now and in the future – close and trusting or distant and argumentative, loving and honest or angry and filled with pretense

~ your child’s ability to feel safe and confident in the world or to feel uncertain and hesitant

~ your child’s willingness, desire, and ability to listen to you, to care about your ideas and the important life experience information you can share with her, to cooperate with you

Your influence in your child’s life is HUGELY important and will affect you and your child for the rest of your lives.

If your want your child’s emotional well-being and the happiness in your family to be a priority this year, I invite you to my F.REE upcoming 2013 Virtual Planning Retreat for Parents on Saturday, January 19.

This is an opportunity for you to pause and reflect on what matters most to you in being a parent. We’ll focus on how to make 2013 more joyous, fun, fulfilling.

Click here to find out more about this free event.

If you want to know more about how important you are to your child’s emotional well-being, watch the video below.