How to Connect with your Child After a Hard Day of Work

September 4, 2012 By Leave a Comment

In Today’s Newsletter

~ Personal note from Connie
~ Do you have a copy of my book Joyous Child Joyous Parent?
Attend my F.REE Question and Answer Webinar
~ New video: How to Connect with your Child After a Hard Day at Work

~ Personal note from Connie

So nice to be connecting with you again! I hope you had a delightful weekend. I took a walk with my dear friend Rima in a lovely park and a relaxing horse ride with my wonderful husband Doug on Sunday. It was an uneventful ride, which is ALWAYS good.

Last night I got a call from my delightful daughter-in-law Nichola and my wonderful grandchildren Sebastian and Madison. They and my son had been gone all weekend so it was great to hear from all of them.

Hearing and feeling my grandchildren want to connect with me is magical beyond words! Madi doesn’t have a lot of words yet, and she is an enthusiastic screamer whose message comes through loud and clear.

~ Do You Have a Copy of my Book?

If you do, you are invited to participate in my F.REE Question and Answer Webinar in two weeks.

It doesn’t matter when or how you got your copy – a gift, as part of a program you took with me in the past, a purchase two years ago. As long as you have a copy of my book, you are invited.

Register by going here.

New Video: How to Connect with your Child After a Hard Day at Work

Is it difficult to know how to relate with your child after a tough day of work?

Do you sometimes bring work home with you, including your unhappy feelings?

In today’s video, I give you specific actions you can take and words you can say after a less-than-delightful day at work.

Making the transition to being with your child after a hectic, full day can be challenging, and it is easy to let the events of your day become a part of your evening with your child.

You can change this pattern with a few conscious steps before you walk through the door and when you greet your child.

This short (4 minutes) video tells you how.

Please share any experiences you have using these guidelines. They inspire other parents and give them new ideas.

Happy trails!

To your Joyous Family!
Connie

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Parents’ Most Common Misunderstanding

May 29, 2012 By 2 Comments

When are the times you struggle to understand why your child is acting the way she is?

When you wonder why your child repeats a behavior that you’ve frequently told him not to do?

Your child’s repetitive behavior challenges occur when you unknowingly misunderstand what matters most to your child, what she most needs from you, her mom and dad.

Watch this video and gain a deeper understanding of what makes your child tick!

Then tell me what you are you going to do to improve your relationship with your child. How do you see these behavior difficulties differently? Share your insights with other parents!

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Best Protection from Sexual Abuse for Your Child

June 17, 2010 By 4 Comments

Yesterday I watched Oprah interview 4 convicted child molesters, 3 of whom molested a family member. I know we’ve all heard horror stories of young children’s violations and the long-term price these young people pay.

This is not one of those stories. This post is about what best protects your child from sexual abuse or any other kind of abuse by others.

I learned several interesting facts I’d like to share with you.

1. Molesters ‘groom’ their targets. They gain their trust by being nice to them then begin touching them in non-sexual ways and gradually moving on to more intimate touching. They consciously manipulate their prey.

2. All four molesters believed they were giving the young children pleasure, not pain. This came as a real shocker to me. Yet when I thought about it, I realized abusers do not have the emotional awareness and maturity to realize the emotional impact of what they are doing.

I see these men as profoundly emotionally injured and hurt little boys, trying to find love and connection in the best way they knew how. They are not bad or mean people. They are confused and hurting people and deserve our compassion. AND this does not make it acceptable in any way that they violated these young people in the ways they did.

Here is the most important information for parents to remember and act upon to best protect your child from sexual abuse:

When these emotionally-hurting men looked around for a young person to molest, they looked for a child who was struggling emotionally and in need of someone to love them. These men looked for anger and retaliation toward their parents and not feeling connected and loved by their parents. [Read more…]

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How to Best Help Your Irritable, Moody Child

March 3, 2010 By 1 Comment

Living with a child who is frequently irritable or moody is never fun. Their mood can swing from happily playing to tantrumming on the floor in a heartbeat. You probably don’t even see it coming and are frequently surprised by the sudden change in her mood.

If you’re like most parents in this situation, you find yourself being cautious around your child. Cautious that you don’t accidentally ignite your child into another meltdown. You become fearful of getting her upset by denying her the ice cream she wants or talking with her in the wrong tone of voice.

Being cautious as a parent is never good for you, your child, or your family. When you lose your confidence as a parent, your child feels this, and he feels insecure and a loss of connection with you.

Probably the biggest challenge you face with your child’s mood swings is how to respond. You wonder what he needs and how you should respond to best help him. If you knew how to effectively help him feel happy again, you’d feel more confident and could more easily keep your cool with clarity and certainty whenever those upsets begin.

Instead of responding with confidence, clarity, and effectiveness, you may find yourself reacting with your own irritability, feeling angry and raising your voice. As you well know, this only escalates the problem; and you and your child both feel hurt and bruised by your interaction.

Here are 4 get-yourself-in-action tips to dramatically decrease or even eliminate your challenges with your child’s moodiness and emotional reactivity. [Read more…]

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