What Kind of Day Are You Creating for Yourself?

Doug and I were camping and literally ‘driving off the beaten track’ last week in Anza Borrego Desert State Park. We camped in Hawk Canyon, one of our favorite places in the park.

We went there because the wind was gusting hard, making it impossible for me to relax and enjoy where we were. When we got to Hawk Canyon, we nestled into our little alcove between the high red rock cliffs. The air was still, and it was just us and Mother Earth.

My body immediately relaxed, and I felt happy and free. Everything was simply perfect, and I could have stayed there for days, listening to myself, being, responding to what I felt called to do next. I felt so content and fulfilled.

Return to my life in the Bay Area, and everything has changed. There are emails to go through and write, people to meet, projects to get done, holiday gifts to be chosen. I love all these things, yet what a change!

I find it’s so easy to get caught up in all the seemingly necessary and important tasks of my daily life and to lose the deeper joy and flow of it. I push myself to get things done instead of listening to myself and being.

Today I’m going to imagine myself back in Hawk Canyon where I feel free, relaxed, and fulfilled by simply being. I wonder what kind of day I’ll create.

What are your secrets to getting into the flow and fulfillment of life? Please share them with us.

Being a Great Parent May Not Mean What You Think

Today I offer you a new perspective on being a parent, one which you might not have really considered before. Yet it is hugely important in bringing out the best in your child and to make parenting more fun and fulfilling.

The beauty of Number 7 of my Top Ten Parenting Tips is that it does not require you to try to change your child. Instead, the steps you can take are totally in your own hands.

Curious? Good!

No, I’m not going to tell you what it is. I really want you to watch this short (about 4.5 minutes) video to see what you discover for yourself.

Then share with me and other moms — What is calling you?

Get Out of the House…and Play!

Doug and I recently returned from visiting my brother and his wife in Estes Park, Colorado, near Rocky Mountain National Park. To add to the excitement, we took our 5-year-old grandson Sebastian.

This is Sebastian’s first airplane flight since he was an infant, and I don’t know which of us is more excited – him or me. I am thrilled to be sharing this experience with him. He arrives at our home eager to get to the airport; then at the airport goes through dropping off our bags and security with ease. He is impatient to get on the plane and then for the plane to take off.

Every step of the way he wants to know what is going on. “When are we getting something to eat?” “Why are we stopping?” “Are we going to take off now?”

A few seconds after take-off, he grabs his stomach and exclaims, “Whew, I feel a little nauseous!”

He waits a couple of seconds, looks out the window again, and exclaims breathlessly, “Whoa! I’m a little scared!” Then leans back in his seat for a few seconds to re-group.

Soon he is over his caution and he gazes out the window, studying all he sees below. While still over the Bay Area, he points out the window and eagerly tells me, “Look, Connie. It looks like a map down there!”

Brilliant observation, He’s right. I’ve never thought of it that way. Through the eyes of a child…

On our return flight, Sebastian is now a veteran flyer. He knows what’s expected as we go through all the airport procedures, even taking 100% responsibility for his things going through security. I wasn’t about to touch his bin!

Family adventures give us such joyous, magical memories and deepen our connection with one another. They expand your child’s self-confidence, understanding of the world and ability to enjoy and be successful in life. A bargain at any price!

Below are more photos of our trip, plus tips and suggestions for creating your own fall family adventure, whether it’s an outing of a few hours or a weekend journey.

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I invite you to create your own adventure with your family this fall. Even though summer is over, you can still get out and enjoy the fresh coolness of fall.

When planning a family adventure, here are important guidelines to follow:

!. Choose you destination and activity together. Just because you drive the car, your vote does not trump everyone else’s.

2. If you simply cannot agree on a destination, then work out an agreement that works for everyone. This weekend we go here; next weekend we do what someone else wants to do. The agreement also includes no whining, complaining, or feet-dragging when it’s not your pick.

3. Think outside the box. What can you do that will be new to everyone, even if you’re not sure you’ll like it. Be willing to experiment.

4. Stretch your comfort zone. Maybe the idea of playing video games is like fingernails on a chalkboard. Yet can two hours exploring something your child loves ruin your day or do you harm? Perhaps you’ll discover something new about your child, and he might even see you in a different light.

5. Don’t let your child of any age talk you out of your resolve to do something together. Toughing it out with Mom and Dad won’t destroy his sense of self. Or it might, which could be a good thing.

Here are some activities you could do in a a couple of hours or a weekend:

~ Visit your closest state park for a day or a weekend and go exploring.

~ Take a hike. On our trip to Colorado, Sebastian hiked 4 miles at an elevation of about 12,000 feet without complaint or whining. Give your child of any age the opportunity to challenge his body and build endurance and strength.

~ Travel to the nearest body of water – a stream, lake or ocean. Walk beside it. Play in it. Look in to see what you can find.

~ Visit a museum near your home, one with something of interest to your child. Look for special exhibits that appeal to your family.

~ Visit a wildlife rescue center near you. What a great way for all of you to see wildlife up close.

~ Speaking of seeing wildlife up close, visit a zoo in your area.

~ Ask your child what s/he would most like to do.

Highlights and Photos of our Trip:

Seeing FIVE big horn rams, all close to the road, on Bas’s 5th birthday

Seeing and hearing the bull elk bugle and fight over the femiales

Watching Bas throw rocks in the water, swing sticks as we walked down the trail, use trekking poles, want to catch fish, spotting elk poop.

Bas answering questions and being sworn in as a Junior Ranger after extensive research to complete his Jr. Ranger Book. He took great pride in that badge.

Bright golden leaves of the aspen

What are your favorite adventure spots with your family? What do you most enjoy! I’d love to have you share them in the Comments below.

Here’s to experiencing and cherishing all the joy and beauty life offers us!

Connie

Treasured Family Moments

I hope you and your family are doing wonderfully! I just returned from a delightful few moments with my son Orion and my two wonderful grandchildren Sebastian and Madison. Madi had a low fever this morning so she couldn’t come over to play with me as is our usual Thursday morning activity.

So I went over and spent relaxing time with them, admiring Madi’s new room, trying to get the zippers to work in Bas’s backpack, listening to the music Orion is creating on his iPad with GarageBand software.

And, of course, lots of hugging, kissing and “I love you’s” going around.

These are cherished moments for me and saying “Good by” always feels sad. As if I am disconnecting from a precious part of myself. I miss them the moment I drive away.

What are your treasured moments with your family?

Please share them below.

Happy trails!

To your Joyous Family!
Connie

How to Connect with your Child After a Hard Day of Work

In Today’s Newsletter

~ Personal note from Connie
~ Do you have a copy of my book Joyous Child Joyous Parent?
Attend my F.REE Question and Answer Webinar
~ New video: How to Connect with your Child After a Hard Day at Work

~ Personal note from Connie

So nice to be connecting with you again! I hope you had a delightful weekend. I took a walk with my dear friend Rima in a lovely park and a relaxing horse ride with my wonderful husband Doug on Sunday. It was an uneventful ride, which is ALWAYS good.

Last night I got a call from my delightful daughter-in-law Nichola and my wonderful grandchildren Sebastian and Madison. They and my son had been gone all weekend so it was great to hear from all of them.

Hearing and feeling my grandchildren want to connect with me is magical beyond words! Madi doesn’t have a lot of words yet, and she is an enthusiastic screamer whose message comes through loud and clear.

~ Do You Have a Copy of my Book?

If you do, you are invited to participate in my F.REE Question and Answer Webinar in two weeks.

It doesn’t matter when or how you got your copy – a gift, as part of a program you took with me in the past, a purchase two years ago. As long as you have a copy of my book, you are invited.

Register by going here.

New Video: How to Connect with your Child After a Hard Day at Work

Is it difficult to know how to relate with your child after a tough day of work?

Do you sometimes bring work home with you, including your unhappy feelings?

In today’s video, I give you specific actions you can take and words you can say after a less-than-delightful day at work.

Making the transition to being with your child after a hectic, full day can be challenging, and it is easy to let the events of your day become a part of your evening with your child.

You can change this pattern with a few conscious steps before you walk through the door and when you greet your child.

This short (4 minutes) video tells you how.

Please share any experiences you have using these guidelines. They inspire other parents and give them new ideas.

Happy trails!

To your Joyous Family!
Connie