Family Time in Nature is The Best

August 18, 2009 By Leave a Comment

Orion, Nichola, Sebastian, Doug and I
went camping last weekend in the Sierras. We had such a joyous, magical, fun
time together loving each other and the beauty and peacefulness of Mother
Earth. Sebastian went non-stop until those moments when exhaustion overtook
him. Here is a photo of BasSierra_09 and me playing Horsie.

Nichola shared an interesting experience
with me. The week before going camping, several people were shocked they were
taking a toddler camping in the mountains. They cautioned her about all the
dangers in nature that could hurt a child so young.

Yet the two times we’ve camped as a
family this year, both times Orion has observed, “Isn’t it amazing that we can
let Sebastian run around and worry about him less when we’re camping than when
we’re at home? Even when the last time was camping in the desert!”

Nature gives us magical moments to awaken
to ourselves and what matters most. A few weeks ago my assistant Lisa and her
family enjoyed an active, fun camping vacation in Yosemite. She shared she was
surprised and delighted how quickly she connected with nature and relaxed
shortly after arriving. Then they enjoyed lots of hiking and bike riding as a
family. Bliss!

Enjoying the beauty of Mother Earth is
one of those precious resources available to us all every moment. Yet because
she seems to be always there, it is easy to postpone those precious moments …

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Are You Listening to the Heart and Soul of Your Child?

October 11, 2007 By Leave a Comment

Everyone
struggles with how to respond to behavior they experience as difficult
in other people. Even though we don’t usually think of it, all of our
difficulties with behavior are about emotions. They are          about all of the emotions involved–ours and the other person’s.

      

In our
society, we don’t pay much attention to our emotions, and as a result,
we can feel pretty lost when situations become emotional. Generally, we
are taught to suppress our emotions, especially the "negative" ones,
such as anger, sadness, irritation and grief.

      

Many people          believe their emotions get them into trouble. This is often true because          they don’t know how to lovingly and wisely handle their own uncomfortable          emotions or someone else’s.

      

We like
to believe we are rational beings and that our choices and actions are
based purely on reason and common sense. Research shows us something
else. We make choices based on our emotions and then use our intellect          to find rational reasons to explain why we made the choice we did.

      

Our
emotions are at the heart and soul of who we are and what we say and
do. They are a powerful force within us that we try to control, rather
than listening to them and valuing their importance in our life.

      

We usually          perceive all behavioral difficulties as strictly behavior and fail to          see the emotional connection beneath the surface. You          may believe you need to control and manage your child’s behavior when          she acts inappropriately.

      

But what
I’ve seen is when you try to manage your child’s behavior without
considering what’s happening with her emotionally, it seldom works in
the long run. It’s your child’s emotions that drive her behavior and choices.
When you learn to "read" and understand what is happening with your
child emotionally, then you have the insight to make informed, wise,
compassionate choices that support your child’s emotional and spiritual
well-being.

      

Your child’s          emotional stress can also be expressed physically
in the lack of well-being in his body. The physical and emotional have
a strong connection within all of us. You may even seek a doctor’s
advice for emotional problems that seem to be physical in nature.
Emotional distress can be expressed in many ways in children, including
eating problems, nervous habits, illness, and injury due to accidents.

      

The
essential key to bring out the best in your child physically and
behaviorally is to nurture his emotional and spiritual wholeness. Then
he freely expresses his natural desire and ability to relate
harmoniously with you. His soul essence shines brightly and he easily
shares his magnificent gifts with life.
               
                Love          Joyously!

      

When you          see your child struggling or "misbehaving", take a step          back
and consider what is happening with her emotionally. Do not see the
problem as only a behavioral or physical concern. Ask yourself, "What
might my child be experiencing emotionally right now?

      

You have          within you a natural ability to nurture your child’s emotional and spiritual          wholeness. Decide to place your emphasis and focus here with
your child and yourself. When you look beneath the surface to the heart
and soul of your child, problems disappear and you and your child
flourish in wonderful ways you didn’t know were possible!

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Today’s Generation of Children

September 4, 2007 By Leave a Comment

You may wonder why your child doesn’t respond the same way you did as a child. She may be more willful or disrespectful, which causes you to wonder what kind of person she is to act this way. Today’s children aren’t the way you were when you grew up. Times have changed. Today’s children have their own ideas and are more independent. They want things the way they want them and they usually insist on having them now.

Children today can feel like a handful to their parents. These young people are powerful, capable, and internet-ready. They are less willing to do what they are told and have stronger opinions about things. They are also more sensitive to the emotional environment in which they live, which can result in behavior patterns that are frustrating and uncomfortable to themselves and their parents.

What used to be considered good parenting is no longer adequate to raise today’s children in our modern world. Children need a new approach from their parents if they are to flourish. They need for you to be stronger, clearer and more sensitive. They need for you to nurture their emotional wholeness so they can flourish and express their brilliant innate potential. In our rapidly changing times, they need a solid, loving, emotionally safe foundation with you.

One of the things I do in my Parenting with Joy Training is guide parents to be more aware of their child’s emotional wholeness and to make this a priority. This means making your child’s emotional well-being a higher priority than the orderliness of his room, the color of her hair or the clothes she wears, and his grades in school. When your child is emotionally whole, he will much more easily and naturally make wise choices in all of the areas of his life.

Think about it this way. When you feel joyous, confident and fulfilled in life, you do your best work and things go positively and easily. You have a lot more fun. When the opposite is true and you feel unhappy, confused or alone, things don’t go well. Everything seems hard, and simply getting up and making your bed can feel like a monumental task.

The same is true for your child. When she is flourishing emotionally, her natural brilliance radiates, and she is loving, creative and able to achieve what she desires. However, when she struggles with unhappiness, her health suffers. Her grades drop, emotional and behavior problems appear, and she is less motivated to participate fully in life.

Love Joyously!

Today’s children require a new style of parenting. You need to know how to allow freedom and self-expression while clearly setting limits that empower your child and not limit him. You need to be an insightful, aware guide and facilitator, not a disciplinarian. You need to be the best person you can be in order to be the best parent you can be.

Emotional wholeness is the powerful key that makes it all work. Emotional wholeness means being who you are, listening to yourself and doing what feels best to you. Emotional wholeness gives you and your child a strong sense of personal identity and confidence, the ability to feel deeply and live life with freedom, clarity, focus, joy and love of self and others. When your child is emotionally whole, he wants to get along with you and is emotionally connected with himself and with you.

When you make emotional wholeness a priority, you will notice amazing, wonderful things happen. Your child will express herself in ways you never imagined possible. She will be kinder and more cooperative, more motivated to achieve significant goals, and will make profound observations of discovery about herself and about life. I’ve had so many delighted clients tell me stories about the surprising new things their child did and said since making emotional wholeness a priority.

When you realize that emotional wholeness is the key to all of your child’s future success and happiness, the choice is really a simple one. You probably already know you want your child to be emotionally whole. Now it is a matter of making it a priority for your child and for yourself. Just imagine what a creative, joyous combination that will make!

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Have Parenting Be More Fun!

April 2, 2007 By 1 Comment

Spring is here! Warmer weather has arrived. It is a time for new beginnings, new life, new ideas. Are you ready to have parenting be more fun, joyous, and delightful?

Recently I saw an article online about parenting. The main point of the article was that parenting is the hardest job you’ll ever do.  Do you sometimes feel this way? Is your child’s well-being worrisome and stressful to you?  Do you feel tired of frequent bickering, conflicts, and power struggles? Do you simply want parenting to be more fun and easy?

Parenting as a challenge and effort has never sounded good to me, and I’m sure this isn’t what you envisioned when you first became a parent. I believe parenting is intended to be fun, joyous, fulfilling, rewarding, loving, and amazing! Are you ready for more joy, magic, and ease in parenting? If yes, then keep reading.

As a child, my parents often talked about how much they enjoyed my brother Larry and me, how much they enjoyed being our parents. Of course, there were times when they didn’t seem to be having fun as parents; but I believe most of the time they enjoyed it.

I think my mom and dad made a choice to have parenting be enjoyable for them. It was a gift to themselves and to us. I know I made a choice to be the best mommie I knew how to be and to love and enjoy my son dearly.

When you became a parent, what choices did you make? Have you continued to be true to your original vision or have you lost your way? Perhaps you have you done what you thought was expected of you without consciously reflecting on what you wanted as a parent? Have you been on automatic, struggle and worry more than you want?

Today is the perfect day to either reaffirm your original choices as a parent or to make some new ones! It’s never too late, no matter your child’s age. I invite you to choose joy, delight, ease, amazement—all the parenting magic you want. This applies for all of you who are teachers also.

Being a successful, effective parent who raises a self-reliant child is definitely a worthwhile goal to aspire to, and I suggest you consider the following ideas.

  1. To be truly successful and effective in raising a self-reliant child, it must be fun and nurturing to both you and your child. Without this, your effectiveness diminishes dramatically as does your child’s ability to make wise, self-supporting choices. There is nothing to be gained for you or your child by struggle and hardship.
  2. No relationship with anyone is ever 100% free of conflict or challenge. This is a part of being human. By maneuvering skillfully through these uncomfortable times, however, you can create more joy, more love.

Love Joyously!

Here are some easy suggestions of things you can do to make parenting more fun.

  1. Find a rut you’re in and get out of it. If some part of your relationship with your child is repetitive and you’re not enjoying it or it’s boring, then try something new.
    A couple of weeks ago, my husband and I rode Destiny and Echo on a trail we had ridden many times previously. This time we decided to ride the trail in reverse. Presto! It suddenly became a brand new trail. Find something like this you can do in your life.
  2. Take a risk. Whenever you do something new, it may feel uncomfortable simply because it is new. Do something this week that puts you out of your comfort zone.
  3. Find a new, more positive perspective on the routine in your life. When you do something because you “have to”, it takes all the fun out of it. Ask yourself “why” you want to do this. Then inspire yourself, find another way, or don’t do it.
  4. Watch and learn from your child how to have fun.This is one area where your child has lots more knowledge than you. Let your child teach you how to have more fun.
  5. Learn to set boundaries and reduce conflicts with your child. There is nothing like fighting and arguments to take the fun out of being a parent. To assist you with this, I invite you to take my TeleClass about setting limits this month, and begin to put more fun and magic into your relationship with your child.

Parenting can be one of the most fulfilling experiences of your life. Give this to yourself and to your child today!

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