Echo’s Choice

We’ve been having a lot of rain here in Northern California. Last night my husband Doug came home after taking care of our two horses and shared with me an amusing story about his horse Echo.

It was raining, and Doug was filling Echo’s water barrel. Suddenly it began to intensely hail with balls of hail pounding on the corrugated metal roof over their heads. Echo startled and looked around frantically, searching for a way to get away from the hail drumming on the roof over his head.

Then, with the logic only a horse can understand, Echo turned and put his head out from under the roof. There he calmly stood, hail pounding on his head while the rest of his body was dry under the roof. When the hail ceased, he turned and brought his head back inside his stall.

You guessed it! He was a sight to behold with his sweet horsey face covered with snow and ice…and a contented smile on his face. All was good in his world!
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My human logic would never have made Echo’s choice to put my head out
in the pounding hail when I had the choice to be under a roof. Similar situations happen with choices our children (or our spouses) make. They make choices that are incomprehensible to us. 

We, as parents and educators, need to be more accepting and understanding of our children’s logic and desires when they make choices we don’t comprehend. Take a deep breath and look for the beauty in who your child (and your spouse!) is.

The Cambodian Coast

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Cambodia has a small, pretty undeveloped coast along it’s southeast border. We arrived here in Sihanoukville by bus on Phnom Penh Saturday evening and have been here since.

The beach is lined with thatch-roofed restaurant huts that offer cold drinks plus a wide variety of food. Children, women, and beggars walk up and down the beach in search of tourist dollars for their food, hand-made jewelry, and opportunities for manicures, pedicures, and massage. I admire their resourcefulness to find ways to support themselves while providing a service to travelers.

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We’re staying in a cute bungalow about a block from the beach with air-conditioning and hot water. Total cost per night for this comfort–$20. Paradise!

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We’ve decided to stay here until we go back to Phnom Penh on Friday morning. We’re enjoying this slow way of life and relaxing. The beach is beautiful.

A Crunchy Snack

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Today we took the bus back from Siem Reap to Phnom Penh. At our second stop at a small town along the way, we were surrounded as usual by many women with food on trays to sell to passengers unloading from the bus. There was the usual–mangos, fresh pineapple, hard-boiled eggs, shrimp, and cold drinks.

There was something unique here in Skuon, however. A couple of women carried trays of dark-colored, strange-looking food. I knew I wasn’t interested in something that looked so foreign so I didn’t really look at what was on the tray.

Then Orion observed, "Look, Mom. These are spiders!" And, in fact, the strange-looking food was deep-fried spiders that glistened with some kind of sauce on them. Ugh!!! The spiders were aboutP1260511
2.5 inches across including their long hairy legs.

Always the adventurer, Orion decided to eat one of the crunchy spiders, as I stood by grimacing and horrified. They looked so spider-like!! Yuck!

Then, after a few bites, Orion said, "Not bad, Mom. Are you sure you don’t want to try it?"

As creepy as it was, I mustered the courage (I think it was courage) to break off a tiny piece of a leg and to chew it a few moments. It was pretty crunchy without much flavor except for the sauce. I can’t say I enjoyed the experience although I am glad I briefly tasted it.

So the next time you want to try a unique culinary treat, come to Skuon in Cambodia. Orion says, "The spiders are not bad."  P1260513

He should know. He ate two of them.

Temples of Angkor

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Gigantic temples emerging from the jungle. Surreal. Awe-inspiring. Ancient symbols of wealth and power. Immense. Majestic. Ancient sandstone mazes. Concentric patterns.

The Temples of Angkor fascinate at every turn with their individual uniqueness.

Bayon–a huge temples of 216 large faces, all the same and bearing a strong resemblance to the Cambodia’s legendary king Jayavarman VII who built Bayon.  P1230191

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Ta Prohm–crumbling in many places with nature being allowed to somewhat take over. Giant frangipanni trees grow up from the walls, draping their mammoth roots picturesquely over the walls, creating beautiful photo opportunites.

Bantaey Srei–meaning "the Citadel of the Women" is a Hindu shrine built to honor Shiva. A small, petite temple with intricate and ornate carvings. P1240371

Eastern Mebon–8 almost life-size elephants guarding the corners of the two concentric rectangles.

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Angkor Wat–inspiring and powerful, surrounded by a large moat 190 meters wide, which forms a rectangle measuring 1.5 km by 1.3 km. It’s most inspiring features are the 5 symmetrical towers rising up to the sky. It is beautiful and magnificent.

What I remember most about Angkor Wat was climbing the stairs to the third level of the temples. The many narrow steps rose ladder-like about 40-50 feet with nothing to hold on to. About halfway up, I experienced a moment of fear as I realized going down was as frightening as continuing up. About that time, Orion asked me how I was doing, then asked me to stop as he took a photo of me. P1240292

As I continued up, I began to wonder if I could safely climb back down these steps. For the next 30 minutes or so, I tried to focus on the wonder of what I was seeing, rather than my terror at the descent.

I felt an immense wave of relief flow through me when we came upon a long line of people waiting to climb back down a different flight of stairs, this one with a small iron railing. After discovering this, I relaxed and enjoyed the awe-inspiring beauty of Angkor Wat.

A Profound Encounter

Today we visited the Angkorian temple of Angkor Thom, a large complex of several unique temples north of Angkor Wat, the "mother of all temples." Toward the end of our time here, we visited the Terrace of the Leper King, a rather uninteresting-looking platform with a headless statue on the top. On the south side, these is a hidden terrace about 4 feet wide that winds through four tiers of well-preserved stone carvings.

As we wound our way along the terrace, we came to a man sitting on the ground missing both feet and much of one leg, a victim of landmines. He was begging for money, and I turned my head away and looked down, feeling extremely uncomfortable. Not wanting to look and see and acknowledge.

Around another bend, we found another man with virtually no legs at all; and we hurried past, wanting to ignore his humanity and pain. After a few feet, I said to Orion, "We have to figure out how we want to handle and respond to these people injured by landmines."

After a few moments of discussion, we reversed our direction and gave each man some money, for which they were both heart-touchingly grateful, responding with huge warm smiles and bowing. We felt so much joy and love connecting with these courageous, heart-centered men.

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One of the men, the man with short stumps for legs, began to talk with us in clear English, telling us about the landmine he stepped on in 1987 ago when he was 24 and was fighting against the Khmer Rouge. His name is Ontai. Every day he rides his hand-pedaled, 3-wheeled bike 1.5 kilometers to come to this place to beg. He lifted his sleeve and showed us his powerful muscles. He was so loving and so appreciate of our financial support and our company. We bid him a warm farewell.

Before leaving this temple complex, we visited Ontai again, taking him another dollar and the best of the three apples we had with us. He smiled warmly when we returned and took the apple, asking the name of this fruit in English. We told him, "Apple", and he repeated it after us. P1230228

We visited a few more minutes and took photos of each of us with him. We then bid him a final good-by as we wished each other happy lives.

As we walked away, I glanced back briefly and saw him cupping the apple in both of his hands and looking down at it intently. I heard him say quietly, "Apple," as we walked away.

As we left the hidden terrace and walked back out into the bright light and warmth of the day, my eyes filled with tears.