Are you feeling stressed and overwhelmed with too much to do? One of the biggest things moms struggle with is being good to themselves. In fact, most moms tell me they feel guilty when they think about it – guilty when they do something special for themselves and guilty when they don’t because they know they “should.”

As a mom and wife, there are so many things you need to do for your child and your home, often combined with a career. Taking care of yourself easily becomes one more thing to try to squeeze into your already busy day. One more thing that adds to your feeling overwhelmed.

In fact, you may be skimming this article and wondering if you have time to read it.

Here is the bottom line: The most important reason for you to be good to yourself as a mom and wife is that your child and husband COUNT ON YOU to be the best you possible. And the only way to be the best possible you, is to treat yourself like gold.

That’s right! If you truly care about having a happy, connected, fulfilled family, then you must treat yourself well.

Your child looks to you for connection and as a role model of how to live a successful, happy life and your husband looks to you for partnership and intimacy. The only way to do that is to make yourself one of your highest priorities.

The easy path to being good to yourself is to see it as a moment-to-moment activity, not a special event that requires planning and fitting into your calendar. It’s crucial to be good to yourself as part of your daily life.

Let me share with you 3 simple questions you can ask yourself as you go through your day. These will help you clarify what matters most to you and guide you to make better choices for you.

#1 Is what I’m doing fulfilling and consistent with what matters most to me?

Every woman has should’s she unconsciously lives by. This question will prevent ‘the shoulds’ from taking over your life.

#2 Have I clearly chosen to do this?

Often we do things because we become a slave to our to-do list. We rush from task to task without consciously choosing our next action.

#3 Am I having fun?

Approaching life from the possibility of play and enjoyment changes your perspective on everything and gives you more options. This puts more magic and the joy in your life!

Making yourself one of your highest priorities requires the courage to do something new and thinking out-of-the box. However, if you weigh this against how good it is for you and everyone in your family, you know it’s worth it.

Being good to yourself is one of the most important gifts you can give your family! Enjoy your life!