Every Child is Vulnerable to Bullying

September 19, 2013 By Leave a Comment

I hope you’ve been enjoying my videos about bullying and that you’ve discovered new insights about some of the myths and causes of bullying.

You may believe that your child is doing fine socially and that bullying is unlikely to be a problem for her. Yet the painful truth is about 77% of children experience bullying of some kind -there are four different kinds – and almost 60% of children who are bullied never tell anyone, not even their parents.

Every child is vulnerable to being bullied. I see a few reasons for this.

First, as a human being, your child naturally needs and wants relationship and connection with others. Because of this, he is sensitive to how others treat him, what others think and say about him, whether that is kind and accepting or if it is abusive and shaming.

Secondly, your child may tolerate being abused to fit in and be included. Just to feel he has some connection with others. He may choose to give up his own power because of how he has learned to survive in relationship with others.

Thirdly, our society doesn’t really acknowledge or understand emotions very well. As parents, educators and society, we don’t know how to recognize emotional problems or how to respond. Almost everyone wrestles with finding emotional well-being. This applies to your child and everyone in his world. Thus, the possibility of an emotionally hurting child doing something abusive to your child.

As a parent who really wants to be a good parent, I know you want to do the very best for your child and to help him have the inner strength to either prevent being bullied or to respond to it in a way that empowers him.

In my teleclass next week “How to Bully-Proof Your Child and What to Do If It Happens,” you’ll learn how to help your child be:

  • so emotionally healthy and resilient he is not a good target. His feelings of internal power and self-respect are intact. He knows who he is, feels self-confident, and is not easily intimidated or belittled by others.
  • so emotionally strong and empowered within she have no need to bully others to prove herself
  • so connected to her own inner strength and compassion for others she make kind, courageous choices to be kind to others.

If you want this for your child, I invite you to join us next Wednesday, September 25 to discover new insights and tools to help your child be bully-proof from the inside out. This class is affordable and parent-friendly.

Click here now to sign-up or to get more info

Remember, even if you’re busy that night, you can still get this life-changing information for yourself and your child. The call will be recorded, and I will send the recording shortly after the class, plus a transcript of the call shortly a few days later.
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If you haven’t had a chance to watch the first five videos in the series, here are the links:

Myth-Busting Bullying: How Big a Problem Is It Really?

Myth-Busting Bullying: What’s It Really All About?

Myth-Busting Bullying:The Bully is Not the Bad Guy

Myth-Busting Bullying: These Strategies Don’t Work

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Are You Secretly Hoping for a ‘Perfect’ Child?

June 7, 2013 By Leave a Comment

Becoming impatient with your child is not something you think about. It’s something that seems to happen out of nowhere when your child does something you don’t like, something that doesn’t fit your idea of how and who he should be.

Your impatience occurs because an emotion is triggered within you, and you react. You cannot think your way to controlling your temper and managing your reactivity. You have to explore, observe, and feel your way to greater inner awareness and clarity.

In my coaching with parents, I’ve discovered many parents secretly hope for a ‘perfect’ child. A child who is always cooperative and does what you say instantly, and he does it happily.

Raising a ‘perfect’ child certainly seems like it would make parenting so much easier. There would be no conflict. She would always say and do the right things. He’d easily be nice and get along with everyone. You would be such a proud parent.

Sounds a little silly, right? You want your child to be the human being he is. The perfect child would get a little boring, and you’d begin to wonder what’s going on with your child…after months of enjoying his perfection. 🙂

Joking aside, the reality is that every time you feel impatient with you’re unconsciously wishing your child were different, were more the way you believe he should be. You’re resisting the reality of who he is right now.

Of course, you have to have structure and your needs and wants matter. Right now, I’m pointing out a possible source of your frustration.

Obviously, your child is a unique, whole, separate person.

Obviously, your child is going to have her own opinion and ways of doing things.

The next time you feel resistant and annoyed with what your child is doing, see if you can pause, take a deep breath, and notice what you believe your ‘perfect’ child should do. See if you can create some space between your belief and your emotional trigger.

See if you can find a little amusement with yourself for your humanity.

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Oh, I almost forgot to tell you about my upcoming new teleclass “Keep Your Cool: How to Be More Patient with Your Child” on Monday, June 10.

If you’d like more insights about:
What triggers you emotionally with your child
How to be less reactive and more responsive to your child
How to clean up the hurt, distance, and mistrust after you speak angrily with your child

I invite you to sign-up for my teleclass today! I’ll be sharing lots more goodies and strategies with you then.

Click here to sign-up and learn more.

 

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De-Stress Your Life for Parents Part 2

May 15, 2013 By Leave a Comment

As part of ‘De-Stress Your Life for Parents Month,’ here is another video to keep you moving forward.

I discovered the Cycle of Stress a couple of weeks ago when I was planning my class on de-stressing for parents. Even though the topic may sound boring, it is quite fascinating how we add to the stress we experience.

This video will:

  • give you a bigger perspective and understanding how stress gets triggered
  • the role you play in keeping stress going–Yes, you are a key player!
  • greater clarity about what you can do to experience less stress and be more connected to yourself and your family.
Are ready to take action to have less stress in your life?

In my “De-Stress Your Life for Parents” downloadable program, you will :

  • Learn the true cause of most, if not all, of your stress. It’s seldom talked about!
  • Discover the two most compelling reasons to de-stress your life now. You’ll be surprised!
  • Have at your finger tips a menu of do-today strategies to get yourself back on track when things get tough.
  • Come away with personal insights about you and your unique ways of coping with stress.

Click here to find out more.

I invite you to make de-stressing a priority in your life. This alone will make profound positive changes for you and your family.

To your Joyous Family!
Connie

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What Did You Discover?

April 2, 2013 By Leave a Comment

Over the weekend, I sent you an exercise to help you discover how much your child ‘wants’ to listen to you, the operative word here being ‘want.’ Have you had a chance to do it?

If you haven’t done it, I really encourage you to focus on the exercise questions I suggested for at least one evening with your child to see what you discover.

Stepping back to observe your interaction with your child will give you valuable new awareness and insights about yourself and your child. In my coaching and parenting classes, I frequently suggest parents observe a particular area of their family relationships to see what they discover. They often return with unexpected new insights.

Many parenting techniques rely on fear, rewards, and control to manage a child’s behavior and to get him to listen. Yet these approaches actually limit your child’s capability and full self-expression.

Plus, using bribes and reward dramatically harm your relationship with your child both now and in the long run. In the younger years, these strategies may appear to work and yield the results you want; however, as your child becomes a teenager, these old techniques put huge distances between you and your child.

Teens refuse to be controlled by their parents using these techniques.

Your child of any age wants a mutually honest, loving, trusting relationship with you. Without this kind of relationship with you, their desire and ability to listen diminishes.

A good way to begin to improve how much your child listens to you is with this easy, little-effort exercise. I encourage you to do it tonight!

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Here are the steps of the exercise:

1. Go about your day or evening observing the reality of your child’s desire to listen to you. Ask yourself these questions:

~ How much does my child want to listen to me?

~ What does she do that makes me feel this way?

~ What are the things I do that seem to cause her to pull back and not listen?

~ What are the things I do that seem to invite her to be closer and more connected to me and to want to listen and cooperate more?

2. Have fun observing yourself and your child.

3. Take a few moments and write your answers to the above questions.

4. Last question – What is my most important discovery or insight from observing how much my child wants to listen to me?

5. Share with me and other like-minded parents what you discover.
Share your discoveries and insights below.

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New Teleclass Next Monday! “Why Johnny Doesn’t Listen and What You Can Do About It”

An essential component of Joyous Parenting is having your child listen to you. Trying to raise and live with a child who doesn’t listen is exhausting and stressful. As a parent, you work much harder than you need to.

If you wish getting your child to listen were easier, I’d love to have you join us next Monday for this valuable class filled with practical tools you can use immediately.

If you’re busy next Monday, don’t use that as an excuse not to get this useful information that will make a profound positive difference in how your child listens to you and how much you enjoy one another.

Click here to sign-up and for more info.

Many people believe that parenting is one of the hardest jobs on the planet. It doesn’t have to be. With a few simple tools and insights and your willingness to grow as a person and a parent, parenting can be the truly joyous experience you envisioned when your child was born.

Here’s to making parenting easier and a lot more fun!

To your Joyous Family!
Connie

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Don’t Miss This Call Tonight! Nurture your Child’s Self-Confidence

March 12, 2013 By Leave a Comment

This is your last chance to join us for my class tonight “5 Essential Secrets to Raising a Self-Confident Child.” I have so much crucial information to share with you.

In fact, as I’ve been finalizing the content for the class, I’ve discovered I have SIX essential secrets to share with you. I promised I would give you the best I have about nurturing your child’s self-confidence, and that is exactly what I am going to do.

Often parents don’t recognize when their child is struggling with confidence, a lack of grounded trust in herself. Yet if your child has recurrent emotional meltdowns or angry outbursts, if your child hesitates, is often uncertain, or lacks motivation, your child is in some way struggling with self-confidence.

I invite you to take a moment and consider how important your child and his confidence is to you.

Then consider what you are willing to invest of your time and finances to nurture that. It’s probably a lot.

Now let this powerful feeling of commitment to your child and her self-confidence move you to take action right now.

Sure, spending more money and being on the phone tonight may not sound like the highlight of your day right now. But what if you leave the class more energized, more inspired, more focused and clear about what you need to do to nurture this all-important quality in your child?

What if you can make a profound, positive change in your child’s life by making a few simple changes in your own behavior and in your awareness of what your child needs from you?

The time is now. There is no more ‘tomorrow’ to sign-up. I’d love to share this information with you.

Click here to sign-up now.

If you already have something you’re doing tonight during this time and cannot be on the call live, sign-up now and I will send you the audio recording and the transcript within just a couple of days.

Plus, if you have a question you’d like to ask me about your unique situation, go ahead and register and then email your question to me by 3 pm Pacific today, and I will answer your question during the 30-minute Q & A at the end of the class.

Don’t miss this impactful, life-changing information! I am blown-away by all the content I will be sharing with you tonight!

Click here to sign-up now.

Oh, and when you come to the call tonight, be sure to have paper and pencil and your favorite drink so you can get the most from this class for yourself and your child.

I look forward to talking with you soon.

To your Joyous Family!
Connie

P.S. Please tell your friends and family who might also want this information about nurturing their child’s self-confidence. Make a difference in their lives too! Thanks.

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